The answer “We homeschool” is almost always met with, “I could never do that!” The response always makes me pause a second because there is really no good reply. I could mumble something like, “Oh okay.” I can ignore it and just move on in the conversation. Or, what I really want to do sometimes is answer with, “Not with that attitude!”
It seems that people who aren’t in the homeschooling world truly don’t understand how we “put up” with our children 24/7. I have friends who homeschool and friends who do not homeschool. I do know that the ones who do not homeschool do look forward to school starting again. It’s their routine, it’s what they’re used to, it orders their life. For homeschoolers, we feel the same about keeping our children home to learn. Having them home all the time is our routine. We have found ways to make it ordered. Ways that make us look forward to August for different reasons….
Homeschooling moms aren’t super women. We don’t always have the patience of Job. Honestly, I think a lot of my public school mom friends have way more patience than I do! We are just used to doing things on our terms and at our family’s speed. That is truly the beauty and saving grace of homeschooling. Not answering to a school bell, not having to know the 12’s tables by Friday when your child is stuck on 12×6. Being able to say forget the Romans when your child want to skip ahead and devour books on WW2. Homeschooling doesn’t have the same stress and feel as not homeschooling does.
We do have our own stresses though! For one, our children are home 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Or at least they could be. I think most of us do put our children in activities whether it be academic or for fun. We are the primary person guiding and directing the education of a person or persons.
It’s a huge responsibility. Sometimes we notice issues like dyslexia a little bit late and then feel all the guilt for not catching it earlier. Sometimes we may be a bit jealous of the 7-8 hours other parents get with a child free home. But the pros have definitely outweighed the cons.
So how do we make it work? How are we able to homeschool when we are just ordinary people? Sheer determination. It’s the daily belief that how we have chosen to educate our child(ren) is the best way for our family. We don’t do it to snub others. We don’t do it to make public school moms feel guilty. We don’t do it so that we can give some sort of snobby response to the “I could never homeschool!” question. We do it for so many reasons that have nothing to do with anyone else.
I still don’t really have a good answer to “I could never homeschool my children!” I don’t know if I should respond, “I could never send my children to public school!” Or if I should answer, “Not with that attitude!” Or if I should just smile and ask them a question about their life instead. Is there a good answer? Maybe. Maybe not.
I don’t think there needs to be a perfect, one size fits all answer because we all have picked how our children are educated for different reasons. How have you responded when met with, “I could never homeschool!” ??
This post is written by Kristina Roegner, a homeschool mom of 3. She enjoys sharing about homeschooling with others and is always happy to help local homeschoolers connect.