We struck gold when we got a great opportunity to move to the US from Dubai. And it was the most difficult too, since we would be moving out of the country when the baby was just 6 weeks old. I would then spend a couple of months living out of the suitcase and traveling my home country India. We were finally able to join Daddy here when the baby was just 4 months old.
Now when I think back, I can’t imagine how I did it. I also managed to survive a long haul flight with my baby (just the 2 of us)
I’ve always lived in big cities and having lived in Dubai totally spoilt me crazy. Now having landed in a town near Dallas, I wasn’t sure how I would cope with the suburban culture. But Plano has welcomed us with open arms. We’ve found the most wonderful people here and made some friends for life!
Here are a few things I did to cope as a new mom in town:
This is hard to accept as a new mom, but stop worrying. Having a baby is one of the most natural human phenomenon, as old as the sun has been rising from the east. Don't worry about doing it all and doing it right. The more you relax, the more your baby will be peaceful.
Do what works best for you and your baby. Do only as much as you can. The laundry can wait and so can the mess in the attic.
As mind boggling as it might be, get out as much as you are able to. If the weather permits, take the baby out for a walk or for a drive. You both could do with some fresh air.
You can do it all on your own. But there is no shame in asking for help. People are extremely considerate and as much as you feel that they don't, they do understand your situation. But remember, you can't assume that people will go out of the way to help you - you need to be clear of your expectations. Plano Moms Talk has been a fantastic online community that I can always count on. May it be recommendations for a babysitter or seeking a group of like minded moms to interact with.
This has been a life saver to get out in public, or even at home. I used my ring sling when my baby was little for shorter durations. For the longer durations where I had to be more comfortable and have both my hands free, I've always used my Ergobaby 360 and we use it to date with the toddler.
We travel a lot. And of the places we've visited with our baby, Plano has been the most considerate. I've breastfed in public without a worry. If you need help, there are many breastfeeding support groups that you can find. We had a mom of a 1 week old at one of our groups who was literally breaking down every second. A few weeks later, she was so much more confident of herself and she reached her happy place with her baby! It's possible Mama - you can do it!
Try to get a break from your baby every few days. It might be very hard with your partner working and with no family support. But make a plan to get some alone time. Run yourself a warm bath or sit in a cafe while you sip on some decaf. You both need fresh air, and lots of it!
With huge gratitude to our Guest Blogger for sharing her 6 things that helped her when she relocated to Plano, TX.
Deepika runs a travel & parenting blog at Deexterous. She lives in Plano with her husband and 20 month old son.