You made the decision to homeschool. Yet despite your resolve, all those first day of school photos got to you, didn’t they? We are on our fifth homeschool year, and they still give me a tiny twinge of something I can’t quite put my finger on. I always enjoyed school. Am I depriving my own children of the experiences? What about your own life? How are you going to survive?
One aspect of homeschooling that I think was the hardest to adjust to was finding friends. Most of my friends sent their children to school. Sure, we did after school playdates for a time, but they can’t go to the park mid day. They didn’t understand curriculum struggles and asked questions like “How are you going to socialize your children?” This question always amused me and still does because, well, we were at the park playing, wasn’t that socializing?
The first year we homeschooled, we joined a park play date co-op. I wasn’t ready to commit to an academic co-op yet. The park co-op was a bit awkward as all new things are. A lot of the moms knew each other so I felt like the out of place newbie. Thankfully, because it was the beginning of the year, there were other moms standing around equally as shy. My oldest, thankfully, is super social. He started playing with a little girl about his age. Her mother was one of the other newbies so I sucked it up and introduced myself to my first homeschool friend, Deanna.
I only went back to that park co-op one more time. Deanna and I decided we hated being new and struck out on our own. Our children got along fabulously as did we. Then they moved away, and I may have cried. Hopefully your first homeschool friends won’t move away so quickly! Making friends with Deanna’s family encouraged me to try again. Finding these gems of homeschool friends isn’t hard, it just takes a bit more effort than you may be used to.
One thing I can promise you, is that you will find friends.Good friends. Fast friends. Friends you can call in the middle of the day and get it. Friends who help you rationalize why you decided to homeschool and who remind you that one bad day or week doesn’t mean you should throw in the towel.
If you’re lucky your first homeschooling friends may find you. You may have to awkwardly introduce yourself to someone. They may awkwardly introduce themselves to you. I’ll let you in on a secret, we’re all a bit awkward in the friend making department! I have usually let my children gravitate towards others and then I start the first date like ritual of talking to a random stranger. But I have also made some amazing friends this way.
Next year about this time of year, you’ll see the first day of pictures again. That little weird twinge won’t be as big. Instead of second guessing yourself, you’ll text one of your homeschool friends about going to the park later that day. Then you’ll lie back down and try to grab a few more zzz’s before you try to to make your child understand long division.
This post is written by Kristina Roegner, a homeschool mom of 3. She enjoys sharing about homeschooling with others and is always happy to help local homeschoolers connect. Visit her website at www.dfwhomeschoolresource.com to see all DFW has to offer for homeschoolers.
Have you ever been to a Mommy Mixer?
We have now had two events this year so far. It’s long awaited for many of our moms who were looking for their new BFF!
Our Plano Moms team know that you have moved to Plano, TX from someplace else or simply found it hard to meet new friends and this event was perfect for meeting that need.
Our Plano Moms Mommy Mixer team included Lauren, Jaime and Susan who were there to run the event on April 29th and August 5th at Celebrity Café & Bakery.
Susan said “The Mommy Mixer went AMAZING! It really was a great event and the ladies loved it”
Upon arrival, our moms got Name-tags and stickers with their name/email address. Ideal for swapping with new friends, they were very popular!
All the moms had free chances to win fabulous door prizes from some of our own Mompreneurs offering gift certificates for all types of products and services – from Hair & Make Up, Personal Training, Custom gifts, Clothing and much more!
Speed Mommy Dating needs to be planned, right? We matched our moms based on nearby locations and age of kids for maximum success.
Our timings meant that each pair of moms had a chance to chat and move around with some question ideas for inspiration.
Lots of stickers were swapped & many have become Facebook friends and already arranged meet-ups!
Celebrity Café & Bakery ensured that our ladies were fueled with a great buffet and soft drinks. Many of our moms brought their own wine and beer and shared among each other
“This really was so much fun! I definitely enjoyed myself and I can’t even begin to tell you how thankful I am for this event. Having moved here last summer I just haven’t really had the chance to meet very many people and with this event I was able to connect with moms I may have never met. I feel like I have the beginnings for some really great friendships all because of this event. I truly am very grateful to everyone that helped to organize and run this. Thank you so much for creating such a fun way to make new friends” – Sydney, a Plano Mom.
Who wants another one? Our first Mommy Mixer was a success and we are busy planning our next one!
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No matter what age and stage your kids are in, it’s important for Moms to have some friends. People you can talk to, share stories, advice, or even hang out with. Living in a large city with people so busy can make it hard for you to build relationships with other Moms. Here are some helpful hints on how to make friends with other Moms.
Join Plano Moms Talk: If you haven’t already, then you need to join us in our Facebook group, Plano Moms Talk. This group has over 4700 Moms just like you. The group is growing every week! There are lots of newcomers to the city and even some that were born here. Comment and share advice as it comes up in the threads. You will find Moms in your area quickly and maybe even some of your neighbors! It seems like every day, Moms comment that they are about to move to Plano. Think of it as new friends waiting to meet you.
Come to a Mom’s Night Out Event: Plano Moms is constantly hosting get-togethers from book clubs meet ups to play dates with kids. Make an effort to attend one. It can be scary to go somewhere when you don’t know anyone but trying is half the battle. Check out our events page and calendar to see what we have planned for the week! As you meet new Moms, make sure you get their contact information!
Host a park playdate: Kids love to play at the park! Invite a few Moms from the group to meet you and your kids at a local park in Plano for some playtime. Your kids will have fun and you can make some connections with new Moms. Plan to meet up again at a house or a different park the next week. Set a date and stick with it!
These are some great ideas to get you started on making new friends. Half the battle will be putting yourself out there. Don’t wait for someone to come to you. You need to make an effort. Friendship is important, especially when you’re a Mom.
What are some of your ideas on how to make friends with other Moms?